Please note: before you contact me, I am located in Pleasanton for incalls and NOT in San Francisco or San Jose. I can come to you for outcall and please see my rates for my fees.

I am sure many of you are wondering how you can find a safe companion for a date. I totally understand because we ladies also worry we will book a dangerous gent and like to verify you.

The other day I was trying to verify whether or not a lady was legit since a client was using her as a reference and he told me she is only on instagram. I thought that was odd because most women I know are on Twitter. I was wondering how on earth she finds business since Twitter is way better for finding clients than Instagram.

This lady was hard to verify to be honest and I had to go with my gut feeling in the end and so will you. Many ladies are going incognito and getting rid of their websites and just being on Eros, slixa, p411 (although p411 just announced that as of Jan 2019 they will no longer host ads or allow searches! Sorry gents yet another one bites the dust and Eros no longer allows website links) and the sparse few other crappy sites out there. I am only on private delights and p411.

Here is a quick guide on some of the new ways to make sure the companion you want to see is not a cop and/or is safe to see.

You see a companion on an ad site that interests you.

  1. First, go to her website (if she has one and most all high end ladies like myself will have one) and get to know her better. Spend time perusing the ENTIRE website and not just her pics lol. Check out her blogs if she has them. Look for little hidden gems that make her stand apart from the others such as I have a trust guarantee and a recorded interview. Get on her email list if she has one like I do (well I did until aweber kicked me off for having too many sexual emails LOL so if you try to click on the link to sign up for the email it will not work. I do not know how to disable it). Read, read, study and listen to your gut and not just your dick. Seriously, what does your brain and heart say?
  2. Google her name. Like for instance if you google my name, you will discover a tiny amount of sites I am on. The list unfortunately keeps dwindling as sites shut down. Fyi: some of you have wondered why I am no longer on Eros. I left it. Their ads were getting to be too expensive & there were crappy guys contacting me. Since backpage is gone all of these guys are going to Eros. They have also been banning loads of girls right and left (many have been with them for years and were high-end) and they will keep their money as well!! The final straw was they wanted a copy of my license or passport and that is when I said no way. Homeland Sec invaded their NC office last year in Nov and since then non-US based ladies that have tried to come to the US have been turned away and so obviously HS has hacked into Eros system and is extracting the info and turning it over to border patrol and other gov’t agencies so no thanks!
  3. If I were you gents I would be uber careful not only on what sites you are going to, but absolutely do NOT talk about anything sexual in any email, text or phone call. (I will write a blog about this) I would stay off Eros if I were you or use extra caution as it could be getting monitored by HS. Already in florida there is a new technology that is quite scary and here is a link to an article that was floating around twitter. Expect this to eventually wind up on lots more ad sites. https://www.wfla.com/news/local-news/pasco-sheriff-using-new-technology-to-battle-sex-trafficking/1291484033
  4. Look her up on Twitter and instagram (please note that I’m no longer active on social media because it’s just too much work and I would rather spend my free time at the gym and doing other things. Not only is this reassurance to all of you that your companion is not a cop (I really can’t imagine that a female cop would go to the trouble to have a social media and add to it everyday. Also, there is no way she would have a deepthroat video on her website like I do lol. This deep throat video has been disabled by me because I do not want underaged people viewing it and no please do not ask me for the link because I will not send it to you. I’m not here to send all of you free entertainment. There are also other SM you can look at like facebook (although facebook hates adult entertainers), tik Tok, reddit and I am sure there are others but these are the main ones
  5. See if she is a member of p411 (but you can only do this if you are a member). It would be quite odd for an undercover lady cop to be on p411. I mean there have been undercover men cops for ladies but I have not heard of a lady posing as a cop on that site to be honest.
  6. Do you want to guarantee she is NOT a cop? If she is NOT verifying you somehow, she may or may not be a cop. The reason I say may or may not, is because there are some women due to the new laws that are desperate to make rent so they are taking risks and doing unprotected sex and/or not verifying. This puts them and you at risk unfortunately for sti’s as well as possible police stings. You will have to go with your gut. I have never heard of a police sting asking for verification or deposits. They have backup in the other room with guns! Why do they need to make sure you are safe? They don’t and that is why they don’t ask for ID or verification.  Btw, due to the the high amount of no calls, no shows, many ladies now are requiring deposits to visit them. Sorry but some of you are becoming dicks and as such wayyyy more women now require a deposit in addition to verification to see them


Do NOT go to the Erotic Monkey. There are reviews on there but they are all fake and stolen ads! That is not a legitimate site to verify anyone. As a matter of fact, if you contact a lady and mention that you saw her on that site she will be more leary of you as a time waster, etc.  I believe there are review sites in Canada for Canadian women ONLY as well as overseas for overseas women ONLY but that is it. In the USA the reviews are gone and I am glad. I mean seriously, they were incriminating for both men and women. Last year in Washington and Los Angeles, 2 review boards were shut down and many men writing them were arrested. Not the escorts, but the men. So stay away from reviews. We are not yelp lol. Just because a guy had a great time with one woman does not mean you will have an identical time with her. Chemistry is complicated.

Do not make a hasty decision and take your time. Most ladies like myself prefer long dates that are two plus hours and dinner dates and this requires you take your time to get to know somebody. Most men that book me will spend a good amount of time looking at my website and getting to know me before booking me for a date. Most men book me due to my blogs and my recorded interview

Btw, there are some outdated things on my website that should be removed (like the TER and date check verification) Anyway I do not know where my webmaster is since she is not answering my emails and I have no idea how to do anything on this site other then write blogs. I will be retiring this year so I am not going to pay more money to design a new site thru a new web designer so I am going to leave it for now. But I just thought I would point this out for clarification.