FAUX PAUS TO AVOID ON A DINNER DATE WITH ME

I am getting way more dinner dates and after my interesting dinner date last night, I felt a new blog post was in order so I can point out some serious and non-serious faux pas that happened during this date. Hopefully as you read this you will avoid these pitfalls esp if you go on a date with me.

I was contacted by this gentleman for a 5 hr dinner date and I was to meet him at a 5 star hotel. At first he requested I wear something long and flowing like a summer dress. Yeah I don’t think so, even though this is may, it is cold out esp in evening.  I don’t have any summer dresses anyway because they are not really appropriate attire for 5 star dining and I prefer to dress classy and sexy vs casual when on dinner dates.  

I also do not wear anything long or flowing.  I am 5′ 2″ and long flowing things look terrible on me and make me look super short. We agreed on a sexy black dress as well as no panties, pantyhose or bra.  I agreed on everything except for the “no bra” because I have natural boobs and they do not always look good in certain outfits if I am braless.  I usually wear Victorias Secret pushup bras and then my boobs look really good.  I have thought of getting breast implants so I can go braless but every man whose opinion I have sought has been opposed so I don’t really know what I am going to do. 

I did put on sexy black thong panties after realizing the black dress I was wearing was super short and no panties would be asking for trouble.  It is good I nixed his idea because when I got out of the car there was lots of people standing there along with some children! He told me he could see my panties when I got out of the car – uh yeah good thing I had on the panties then. I can imagine showing my pussy to little children – totally inappropriate!  

After taking an uber to his hotel and bouncing around and stopping short 10 million times, I arrived at his hotel feeling nauseous which was loads of fun.  I don’t know why uber drivers don’t have to have cars with better suspension!  Not only did this guy keep stopping short because of the traffic but he did not warn me and it was not a fun ride.

My date met me at my drivers car wearing jeans and a t-shirt. Not exactly date attire.  Oh well, I assumed he would spruce up before we left for the restaurant. I had to use the toilet right away when we got to his hotel room.  I went into what I thought was the bathroom (because there was a sink and shower) but when I looked around I noticed no toilet? So I am thinking, “wtf? am I supposed to pee in the shower or go across the room?  I have been in a lot of hotels and I have never come across a toiletless bathroom lol.  I finally asked the guy and he said, “Oh it is in this other room.” That is really weird to have a toilet in another room and separate from where you wash your hands.

When I was done going from room to room and getting my exercise for the day while still feeling nauseous. (I mean seriously, why would you build a hotel where a person has to use the toilet in one room and then have to go to the other room to wash their hands? That is crazy) I retired to the living room to have a drink. I noticed he had the sliding door open and that was fine until I noticed all the flies and moths flying around in the room lol. Now this guy is from Malaysia so I know he is probably used to loads of bugs in his home, but here in the USA it is not desirable and it is gross. This is supposed to be a date and as far as I was concerned he was not setting the right scene dressed casually with bare feet and bugs flying all around. It was not very romantic to say the least.

Since he had the door open and it is now allergy season my allergies started acting up and I started sniffing and coughing.  I had him shut the door and turn on the AC.  In the meantime he started expressing concern that I was getting a cold and we needed to cancel the date because he would be traveling over the next 2 weeks and could not afford to get sick.  

He then proceeded to tell me that he since he booked a 5 hr date with me and we obviously would not be using up the whole 5 hrs that wanted some of the donation back.  So at this point I am sitting there with lots of things running thru my mind such as, 1) ok this could be a cop who is wired and now everything I say can and will be used against me in a court of law  2) I am getting pissed because I know I am not sick and would never book a date if I knew I was coming down with something. Plus we had chatted on the phone 3 hrs ago for 1/2 hr and if he thought I sounded sick then he should have cancelled the date right then and there. 3) I just spent over an hr getting ready, an hr to get to him, we have spent at least an hour chatting and now it will be another 1hr or longer to get home. 4hrs out of my day and he wants a partial refund? Yeah I don’t think so lol. 

This is a bad time of year for me since everything is blooming outside and I have bad allergies.  When you have the door open, it invites all kinds of pollen inside (as well as bugs) and of course I am going to start having post nasal drip, coughing and such.  I don’t like to take allergy meds because they make me tired and the non-drowsy ones don’t really work. Also I am rarely in a hotel that even has a way for you to open a door or window esp when you are on the higher floor like we were (floor 10 – also I did not know that flies and moths fly at high altitudes lol)

The good news is I was finally able to convince him I was not coming down with a cold since once he shut the door and turned on the ac my sniffing and coughing subsided and we went thru with the entire date. But wow talk about uncomfortable and unnerving. I love Seinfeld and I remember the episode where Jerry and Kramer thought their accountant was doing drugs because he kept sniffing. They finally realized he was not doing drugs and was only sniffing because he was allergic to Kramer or Jerrys (I forget) wool sweater lol.

I do however want to point out some major things that are pretty standard with most escorts in this business.

1. Under no circumstances am I going to give you a full or partial refund on an outcall date. It would involve not only discussing this but it would also involve me handing you back money. I will never hand you back any money nor will I allow you to ask me where I put the donation so you may retrieve some of it back. (btw: This is different than my trust guarantee https://stephaniaricci.com/updates/guarantee/ With that guarantee it applies only to incalls and not outcalls. 
2. Once we are on a date I will never discuss the donation with you and you are not to discuss the donation with me
3. You are NEVER to acknowledge the donation, hand it to me, ask me where you should put it or in any way shape or form talk or acknowledge the donation during or even after the date. This money is to be invisible at all times as if you are not paying me anything for the date. If it is an incall you are to place it discreetly in an unsealed envelope on the coffee table when you arrive. If it is an outcall, you are to place it in an unsealed envelope in the washroom by the sink. 

When on a date if you talk to a lady about the donation or ask for a full or partial refund this is the biggest NO NO in this business.  You could be a cop (it does not matter if I verified you, cops can slip thru verification if they want to) and wired and now you are getting me to have a conversation about the money you paid me and how much you want back? There is no way I am going there with that conversation! So please do not ever put me in that uncomfortable situation because I will end the date, walk out of the room with the donation and never talk about it. It is way too risky! It is also very uncomfortable to be discussing a refund anyway. I am not walmart or a cheap hoe. You need to make sure you want to go on a date with me prior to booking me. If there is ever any doubt, I am always willing to talk on the phone or skype with you.  (btw skype only applies to long extended dates like dinner dates).  Luckily this is the first time this type of refund situation came up but it will be the last.

When you book a lady and then have buyers remorse or you think she may be sick, you are either going to have to go thru with the date or end it, but you may not ask for the donation back or a partial refund.  I don’t know of any escort that is going to go on a date when she is sick because that is just rude and unprofessional.  Not to mention, she is not going to have a good time with you if she is not feeling well.

If it is bait and switch, well then you will know the minute she comes to your room or gets out of the car and you can ask her to leave without her even touching the donation.  In this particular situation we had been chatting for at least 30 min and of course I already had the donation in my possession and so I would have had to hand him money back and there was no way I was doing that because it was too risky.  The main thing gentleman is once a lady has the money in her possession it is a done deal. Period the end! The only way to avoid this is to meet her at the car and walk with her to your hotel room and figure out right then and there if there is no good connection and end it.

However should you decide to end the date enroute to the hotel room you should always offer some type of compensation for her time in getting to you and well as compensation for gas or using a taxi or uber. Obviously this is the worse case scenario where you have to end a date because it can cause a lot of hurt feelings so again I can’t this emphasize this enough.  Make sure you really want to spend the evening with a particular lady before you book her. Meaning: go over her website and don’t just watch the sexy videos and look at the pictures lol.  

Look at the blog posts to get a feel for her personality. If she is on social media (like I am) Twitter, Linked in, Facebook, Instagram, Tumbler, Pinterest, etc,. go take a look.  I even have a recorded interview on this website under the headline link – “Recording “so you can hear my voice and get to know me even better. Perhaps even chat with her on the phone. Above all and I can’t stress this enough – do NOT make a dick decision but a heart felt decision. Meaning, go with your gut feeling 

I have never had a guy end a dinner date or even a date with me but I can imagine how a woman would feel if a man ended a date with her. 

This also goes for you men. If you are in a room with a woman and she does the same thing and tries to talk to you about the donation. I would walk out of the room since it could be a cop setting you up. No lady is going to bring up the donation and that is a red flag to all of you men that something is amiss.  She may however at the end of the date (if you somehow shortchanged the donation), say something about this and that is appropriate.

Getting back to my story: now that we know the date will go forward, we had our beverages and chatted for awhile. After some time of chatting, I was hungry and asked him where we were going for dinner.  He told me he had lunch a couple of hours ago and wasn’t really hungry. This is a dinner date he booked me for and he is not hungry? Well I am and my blood sugar is dropping so I have to eat.  I did not eat lunch in anticipation of going out for dinner. 

He called the hotel concierge and they recommended a brazillian churrascaria restaurant within walking distance of the hotel. I looked online and the menu sounded really good so we headed there.

On this date this gentleman made a number of faux pas I want to point out so that anyone taking me out on a dinner date will be aware of these issues to avoid.  I really like chivalry on a date and I love when a man is old-fashioned and helps me with my jacket, opens the car door, walks on the outside of the sidewalk, etc.  I was once on a date with an older gentleman who actually stood up when I left to use the restroom and stood up again when I came back.  I was extremely impressed since you don’t see that move anymore!

So here are some situations to be aware of if you take me or any lady on a dinner date. Women like myself love it when a man helps them and acts chivalrous .  It makes me feel loved, cared for and special.

• Always make sure to walk with a woman and not ahead of her. The man is to always walk on the outside of the sidewalk and not on the inside to protect her

When we were walking to the restaurant not only was he walking really fast, but he was outpacing me lol.  I am not tall and so if you are a tall guy then you need to slow down. I was also wearing 5″ stilettos and he was not so it is dangerous for a lady to walk quickly in them. Honestly I was about ready to pick up the pace and out run him because I was getting irritated over the lack of gentlemanly behavior.  When you walk with a lady and walk ahead of her then you cannot really protect her if someone comes out of nowhere and tries to hurt her.

• Dress accordingly for a date. Meaning shower, shave, put on cologne. do all the things you would do for an actual date. I always arrive completely showered, shaved, perfume, manicured, etc and I expect for you and I to look like a handsome couple when we go out.  On this date I felt really weird with me in a 5 star outfit and him looking like he was going to a soccer game lol

If you are booking a lady for a 5 hr dinner date and are staying at a 5 star hotel then you need to be dressed accordingly as well as the lady. After all this is a date. This man never did change out of his jeans, t-shirt and sneakers and that is what he wore to the restaurant.  The restaurant was casual and laid back and noone was dressed up. I felt overdressed compared to him as well as very embarrassed because everyone was dressed down. It was a family style place with a buffet offering. When I asked the waiter if my steak came with any sides like a potato and vegetables. He said I could go downstairs and help myself to the salad bar.  Lol oh goodie.   I just wanted to hide under the table because I felt weird and out of place with my attire and the last thing I wanted was to draw more attention to myself by having to get up to go downstairs esp in my 5″ stilettos and short tight black dress. I mean we should have just gone to in and out burgers because at least I could have stayed in the car. 

• Which brings me to my next point. If you are booking a lady for a dinner date, not only should you take her to a nice restaurant (doesn’t necessarily have to be a 5 star or Michelin restaurant – but family style buffet?  No that is not acceptable esp if she is all dressed up. It needs to be a nice romantic adult only type restaurant with possibly candles and no little children running around).  I always wonder sometimes why my life is like a Seinfeld episode anymore.  I mean I can imagine Elaine on a date with fly and moth guy. I love that series and every episode was based on true life stuff.  I loved the episode where Elaine was on a date and the guy took his dick out. Jerry wanted to know how her date was and she said, “He took IT out! lol. 

Also, it is a good idea to know beforehand where you are going for dinner so that a dinner reservation can be made. If you are booking the restaurant, it is always a good idea to send her the link so she may look it over to see if she would like the menu offerings.  Like for instance I tend to stay away from gluten (I don’t have celiac but my doctor wants me to stay away from gluten if I can and not eat it all the time) as well as I don’t like sushi or lots of carbs since they can make me sleepy. Or you may ask her to book the restaurant and send you the link

• If the lady dresses up, then you should as well. This is a date and I always expect gentlemen to be in dressy slacks, shoes and shirt or suit and tie. I like to match my date and if I am dressed up then you should be as well so we look appropriate when out on the town as opposed to the odd couple lol. I would also like to say that going braless to me is kind of skanky and slutty and when I am out on a date with you I do NOT want to look that way.  I want to always look classy, sexy and never slutty. That should be saved for after hours 😉

Originally he wanted me wearing no panties (thank god I put them on) no nylons and braless. I can imagine being braless and pantyless in this family style restaurant with little johnny there. I don’t look good bare legged with no pantyhose unless I am wearing a sundress and it is summer time. The type of dress I was wearing was more appropriate for a 5 star restaurant and not this type of setting.  Nylons also look better with this type of dress and keep my legs warm. I have no body fat so I get cold easily and in this restaurant I was freezing because we were right by the ac vent and it was cold.  

In the future I will never again allow a man to dictate what I will wear on a date because I know what I look good in. I prefer wearing nylons if I am wearing a classic black dress because it does make the whole outfit look more polished and classy.  I do not appreciate looking like a hooker or a hoe on a date and that is why braless is out. I will always wear panties since my dresses are super short and nylons unless I am wearing a summer dress, it is hot out and I am tanned.  My legs are very toned as you can see in my pics (some of them are also on twitter) but in all my pics, I ALWAYS have a spray tan and I look way better with a tan.  In addition to being Italian I am also Irish and my skin is very fair.  On this date my white legs did not look good and I certainly did not get any compliments from this guy about that. In the future I will only dress sexy and classy.  If you want me to go pantyhoseless then I have to have a spray tan and it has to be summer when it is hot so I do not freeze. Please keep in mind that I would have to have the spray tan the night before so it may be a little inconvenient to do this if my tan lady is booked. 

• Always open the door for the lady and let her in first before you walk in.  The man should always be behind the woman after opening the door. 

I was shocked when he opened the restaurant door and went inside and I had to follow behind him. The wait staff was right there and I am sure they also noticed this behavior and it did not look good.  

Some other chivalrus things I like on a date

• Pull out a ladies chair at the restaurant
• Let her order first or ask if you can order for her
• Help her with her coat
• Compliment her 
• Listen to her
• If you see her drink is getting low ask if she would like another one and then order her one
• Open the car door
• Always make sure she feels safe and protected from danger
• If her food is not cooked to her liking summon the waiter and let him/her know what to do
• Be kind and considerate at all times

Btw in case you are wondering.  This was a $2,000 date so not exactly chump change and I did expect a little better in regards to how he dressed, the restaurant we went to and no flies and moths lol – I guess that was the entertainment lol.

I am really considering trying to find someone to turn my escort business fanatics into an escort sitcom because it would be hilarious and Hollywood has never done anything of the kind.  A reality show would also be good since it would portray what really goes on behind the scenes for escorts and all the crap we go thru as well as all the WORK behind the scenes.  Like right now it is 1 am and I am just now finishing this blog post. Now obviously if you will notice I do not kiss and tell.  I did not use anyones name in this dinner date blog post so as not to embarrass anyone.  This guy and I did have a fun time and I am sure he would apologize profusely if he read this post on his behavior.  I am sure he was not even aware of what he was doing since he is married and I am sure he is rusty as far as dating since he did not have any providers for me to verify and I had to do a work verification.

I just remembered something.  The funny thing is this guy asked me on my date how I come up with such funny and interesting blog posts and I told him

1. They just spontaneously come to my mind
2. A conversation with someone, something I see on the internet or something I am reading sparks the idea
3. Something funny like this date happens to me and I have to write about it
4. Somebody emails or tweets to me an idea of something they would like to see addressed